Pool or Pillow Scream
is a good exercise to see how, by an act of will, we can move
a lot of feelings right out of our body that have been hanging
around for a while kind of fermenting and making us sour.
Scream into a pillow, or jump into a pool and scream under
water. This is wonderful when we feel like jumping out of
our skin with tension, anger, frustration, or anguish. Sometimes
we make horrible mistakes. We get fired, we make stupid remarks
and feel guilty. Sometimes terrible things happen to us or
our loved ones. Then we believe we are the feelings that thinking
about these terrible things cause, and we grab for something
to anesthetize ourselves so we don't hurt. We're not hurting,
our feelings are hurting. We need to learn how to distance
ourselves from our feelings so we can be more objective about
their reality. So we can feel like the guardian of our feelings
instead of feeling like their victim. Anxious thoughts are
not the same thing as mourning. Truly mourning is quite beautiful.
In mourning we have accepted our loss and our sadness about
our loss. In anxiety we are still fighting everything.
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