to the First Thing You Can Say Yes To
stay in a negative no-mind means that nothing will be happening.
The status quo is that we are going nowhere because the mind
is a "yes" system. It is a simplistic thing to say,
but, to stay in a "no" mode is simply the lack of
our decision to go to a "yes" mode. This is the
basis for understanding that depression is simply the lack
of a decision to be cheerful. "But I want to feel good,"
we wail. Then we must think good thoughts. I remember the
first time I did this exercise. I was so distressed, I was
racking my brain to think of someone or something I could
feel positive about. My husband, ugh, my children, yuk. I
was really desperate, and if you are shocked at my attitude,
please remember that when we are filled with terror and fear
and looking for help we want a purely nourishing, no-questions-asking,
not-wanting-anything-for-itself "sure thing." Probably
why sometimes we prefer the company of trees. Sometimes we
are so low in energy that we don't have anything to give.
That's why giving a positive thought seems almost impossible,
even if we have the intellectual understanding that we need
to come up with one. If we don't have the intellectual understanding
that we must bestir ourselves in this direction, we generally
just give up and do nothing. I was going through the list
of possibilities to which I might give a positive thought
when I lighted upon my dog. Yes, I thought, I guess I could
manage a positive thought about my dog. I could give a "yes"
to my dog. We can switch our mind from "no" to "yes"
in this way.
is also a great sales gimmick. Good salespeople understand
that if they can get a customer to start saying "yes,"
the law of inertia will be working in the favor of the sale
as there will be resistance on the part of the customer to
change the "yes" to a "no." That's why
the first question of all those telephone solicitors is usually
"How are you today?" They expect a positive answer.
"Fine, thank you." Or, "Is this Mrs. Jones?"
"Yes." When we are in a down mood this is the way
to sell ourselves on a good mood. Find something you can say
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